2012 is here and you’re still single. 2011 had its memorable ups and eventful downs during your pursuit for love. So you spent New Years Eve with the fellas or with your girls, which isn't bad but you started the new year again, alone. Night was full of laughter and jokes until that moment of clarity hit you harder than the Casey Anthony verdict. You're sipping a hard drink thinking why hasn't that right person entered my life yet? “I look good, I'm smart, working a decent career but the people I date just aren't compatible. Is there something wrong with me?” Well actually there is! Before you start off 2012 alone again you should reflect on your past and present love life to hopefully build a healthy future. A common and major downfall of hopeless romantics is putting your heart on the back burner just to have someone. What is the sense of settling? Dating person after person with the potential of longevity is slimmer than Herman Cain's chance of winning the presidency. What is the benefit of spending your twenties and thirties going from one failed situation to another? I purposely said situation because a relationship has meaning, even if that person hurts you, you are still able to walk away with something; i.e. a lesson learned of what not to do. A relationship should provide you with a different outlook on yourself or a new approach for areas, which needed improvement.
Now there is another obstacle you will encounter, standards. You may be thinking like I really don’t want to date someone with children or I won’t date someone who doesn’t have a college degree. Standards are good but they can also break you, potentially having you settle for someone with what seems like a good dating resume. There are single, crazy people out there with PHD's and there are wholesome, hardworking single mothers and fathers out there. So do not let your standards build a smoke screen over your eyes leading you to settle "up".
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